Ask any girl and she will tell you the most attractive feature in a man is his confidence. Lacking confidence makes you unattractive. Confidence is all mental. We’re never as good or as bad as we think we are. But how you feel about the way you look will determine your ability to get women. I realize building confidence is easier said than done, but it’s something you must do. And to help you do that, here are 5 mental exercises you should do daily.
1.Listen to upbeat music
Some of the most negative people I know listen to angry heavy metal music. I’m not telling you to never listen to this kind of music, but it’s best to mostly listen to upbeat music. Really, any genre is good as long as the tone of the music isn’t angry. Checkout this article on how music affects our happiness.
2.Hangout with positive people
There’s nothing more harmful to your mental health than constantly being around Negative Nancy’s. Start hanging out with people that don’t hate the world and aren’t afraid to give you compliments. You’ll feel better about yourself because the people around you have positive outlooks on life.
Who gives a shit if someone talks down on you? Seriously, it doesn’t mean they’re right. Some people bring down others because their life is so pathetic, talking shit about others is all they have going for them. When someone tell you that you’re not good enough, tell yourself that there are 10 people that think you can. It not only helps you think highly of yourself, it’s probably true.
4.Look yourself in the mirror and say, “damn, I look good!”
Whatever you tell yourself over and over, you’ll eventually believe it. If you look in the mirror and think, “wow, I’m butt-fucking-ugly”, that’s what you’ll think. So don’t do that. Instead, look into the mirror every morning before you go to work, smile and say, “damn, I look good”. After a while, you’ll actually believe it and when you go out, you won’t be so afraid of approaching women.
5.Listen to inspirational speakers
This goes back to having a positive outlook. People that constantly think positively are confident individuals. They’re not afraid to take chances in life, which is the only way you’re ever going to gather up the courage to approach women. Here is a list of the top celebrity inspirational speakers. No, you don’t have to go spend $10,000 to book them to come speak to you. Just checkout some of their videos on YouTube.
You are who you think you are. Negative people think they suck at life and hate the world. They have no confidence. Positive people think that life is good and are confident enough to take chances in life. Becoming confident is easy to do if you are willing to consistently follow the above mental exercises. It won’t happen overnight, but eventually you’ll feel like you’re on top of the world. I guarantee it.